General [ return ] From Message Sheila Unregistered 12/3/2006 14:29:35 Subject: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: I am at a loss to know what to do with my twins of 20 months, they insisted on climbing on a very fragile, rickety coffee table and every time I said "no" they cackled and re-doubled their efforts. As my voice got louder and angrier they just cackled more. I tried distraction, the threat of bedtime - nothing. Any suggestions (and I wont entertain smacking), am I unreasonable in expecting children this young to show any discipline? Basically am I doing something wrong or is it just a hopeless age? Mak Unregistered   30/5/2006 00:53:25 RE: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: hi I was not intending writing anything however I was sorry you had no response to your concern. I have grown up twins & work in child care. 20 months is very young to respond immediately to your request,what you should try is to distract the children, provide a variety of stimulating toys, and try not to let them see they can wind you up!! keep a calm voice and manner, positive praise when they respond how you expect and use facial expression to show you are either happy or sad. Share lots of books so that when they are ready to 'listen' to you the ground work will have been done. Good luck and enjoy tose of us with twins are lucky people Becky Unregistered 04/6/2006 14:02:06 RE: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: It might help to know Sheila that you are not alone. Our 18 month old daughter doesn't listen when we try to stop her from touching things. Some objects can't be moved and we are afaid she could hurt herself. When we tell her not to touch certain things she just looks at us and laughs. Anonymous Unregistered 18/8/2006 08:42:48 RE: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: hi , i am a registered childminder and i have twin grand daughters of 20 months . im afraid the only thing i can offer advise wise is to persevere . They will learn eventualy that no means no . in the mean time keep a close eye on them , keep moving them away and then try to distract . Diane Unregistered 17/6/2007 21:48:01 RE: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: I was dead against smacking until my children got to the cackling toddler stage. The problem is, you just can't reason with a toddler who's on a roll and thinks he or she is being clever. So, you either have to decide that the behaviour doesn't matter, or physically stop it, perhaps by moving an object, e.g. a table they're climbing on, distracting the child or by smacking. I use smacking as a final alternative if all else fails, and I don't smack in anger. This is not a problem, because I know I am not hurting them a lot. You have to judge it right between really hurting them and making it so light that they just laugh. Also, I always warn them several times that if they don't stop, they are heading for a smack, and this often works. Heather Unregistered 15/7/2007 14:00:02 RE: Behaviour: Discipline IP: Logged Message: I am growing increasingly panic-stricken at the defiance of my four year old daughter. When asked not to do something, she will answer back in such a rude and cheeky way. I imagined dealing with this in her teenage years, but not yet! Not only is she like this with us at home but also with anyone who tries to correct her. I end up shouting, which I hate doing and just feel that I have totally lost control. P 1 [home] [search] [catalogue] [forum] [weblinks] [features] [register] [contact us] childcare index 72 Broad Street, Canterbury, Kent. CT1 2LS Tel: 01227 763 425 Fax: 01227 451 789