General [ return ] From Message Lisa Unregistered 21/7/2005 12:43:37 Subject: Relationships IP: Logged Message: My husband recently gave up commuting to London for work to become a part of our own business where we live. Although at first this caused some tension with us spending most of our day and night together, we have worked out a routine where we both have our own space and time, have clearly defined responsibilities around the house and both have lots more time to spend with our three children. Drastic though it may seem we both firmly believe that our quality of life is much improved. Janet Unregistered 09/8/2005 18:24:04 RE: Relationships IP: Logged Message: I appreciate that this Forum is directed towards children and childcare. However, I feel it is worth sparing a thought for us long suffering parents. We have two children, a son of six and a daughter of eighteen months and neither of our families live close by, so consequently we feel very much on our own. This can at times place a huge burden on our relationship when the children are ill and we have to juggle our jobs with caring for them. Also we don't earn a fortune by any means and so having a night out is not really an option as paying for a babysitter as well as the night out just can't be justified. It is not that we regret having children because they really are our life. But sometimes I feel the parents relationship gets lost in all the day to day chores Jill Unregistered 19/1/2006 14:06:43 RE: Relationships IP: Logged Message: Well said! Being a parent is a unique experience as it is both wondrous and horrendous in eaqual measures. The only way to survive is by taking time out to recharge the batteries. I know that nights out with babysitting costs can be difficult to justify, but one could argue that it is money well spent? Also, why not after the children are in bed treat yourself to a nice meal and a bottle of wine indoors maybe with some friends. It is really just about parents finding some quality time together. vivienne Unregistered 27/4/2006 22:19:44 RE: Relationships IP: Logged Message: The easiest solution to babysitting is to network with everyone you know and trust. You will be surprised how a skill you take for granted can be a valuable commodity to someone else so how about fixing a kitchen cabinet or mowing a lawn in return for a few hours of babysitting? I have a neighbour who does all my odd jobs and in return I babysit so they can go dancing. The great thing is that neither of us has to pay out money we can ill afford. Try it, it works! P 1 [home] [search] [catalogue] [forum] [weblinks] [features] [register] [contact us] childcare index 72 Broad Street, Canterbury, Kent. CT1 2LS Tel: 01227 763 425 Fax: 01227 451 789